The A-Word I’m talking about is AFFIRMATION.
And why is it so important? For most people, receiving words of affirmation has the same impact as pouring water on a thirsty plant. People stand up taller, smile more broadly and often project a greater sense of confidence when they hear affirming words.
There’s an important, but subtle, distinction between AFFIRMATION and another A-Word: APPRECIATION.
We tend to appreciate what someone does for us:
-Cooks a good meal
-Runs an errand
-Gives a gift
-Makes a sale
-Solves a problem
-Repairs something
Yes, it’s important to be appreciative of what others do for us. Having a grateful spirit is good for our physical and spiritual health and makes us much more pleasant to be around. (If you don’t think so, just have coffee with someone who complains about everything!)
But appreciation is generally connected with performance.
If a person can no longer perform…is incapacitated in some way…loses a bit of their physical beauty…or if the calendar page has turned to another year and no sales have been made yet….is their worth diminished?
Instead of always focusing on what another person has done for us, why not try focusing on who they are as a person? On their character? To encourage another as a “human being”, not just a “human doing?”
Here are a couple of simple examples of how to make this shift:
Expressing words of affirmation doesn’t come naturally for most of us. It’s certainly not the norm for society today. Yes, it will probably make you feel a little uncomfortable.
But please try it! You just might brighten someone’s day.
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