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Father's Day

Take a Deep Breath and Count to 10

June 12, 2013

 

Father’s Day is just a few days off, and the suggestions for “the perfect gift for Dad”  are endless. What does a dad REALLY want? Well, I’m obviously not a dad, but I have been with both my husband and my dad at the end of their lives. As a person’s days on this earth draw to a close, “stuff” is increasingly meaningless. What a dad really wants is to know is that he’s done a good job loving his children.

One of the greatest gifts you can give a father is to tell him – in writing – what he means to you. What you really cherish about his character. The impact that he has had on your life. Please don’t wait until you are giving a eulogy at a funeral to express your heart about your dad. Let him know now. 

Here’s a simple but powerful idea for Father’s Day: make a list of 10 things you value about your dad. You can do this at any age, whether you are six or sixty.  Just take a deep breath and begin. 

Your list can easily be printed out and placed in a frame…or just written on the inside of a card. It will be appreciated no matter what the format. Be creative!

This exercise in gratitude will help you as much as it helps your dad. Even if your dad is deceased, you’ll still benefit from focusing on his positive attributes, and making a “10 Things” list. While the void left in your life from the loss of your dad might be huge, it helps to pause and remember his good qualities. It’s a great way to honor his memory.

Still skeptical? I know that for some, finding 10 positive qualities is really difficult. If that is your situation, here’s another approach: make a list of “10 Things I Learned from My Dad.” That list might not be something you want to share, but something that helps you. Good can come from even the most difficult situations. By focusing on “lessons learned,” you can make lemonade from lemons. 

Yes, a project like this takes a little soul-searching and thought. It’s easier to just buy a card and a gift. But taking the time to “leave nothing unsaid” is a priceless gift for your dad and for you.